WHAT'S WITH THE SUPER-CRITICAL ATTITUDE??...Why Is There Such A Need To Make others Wrong??
I love it here on ActiveRain...I love the posts because they are so informational---I love the posts because they are so eye-opening and Leading Edge in terms of their perspective. I have met more unusual, informed, intellectual and tech-savvy people here than anywhere else on the web. This is where it is at when it comes to real estate; and I am sure everyone would agree that the time spent here on ActiveRain is time well spent and even tremendously valuable to our businesses.
There is one thing that I am having great difficulty with and that is the NEED for some to be super-critical! This tendency for super-critical analysis has become so, well frankly, blatant that I just have to speak up.
I know that there have been times when I will write a post where-in I criticize a point of view, a bad habit or even a way of doing business. And some may say I am even super-critical myself! However, when it becomes the sole purpose of a post to criticize without a full idea of what the criticism is affecting in terms of a practice that is in line with the law in certain markets---well, it just shows an ignorance of the real factors.
In fact, in the last super-critical post I read, there is a "slamming" of the way certain states set up their agency requirements and a claim of "Greed" when it comes to the way agents from these states are working with buyers and sellers, when in fact they are working well with in their state agency laws and well within the way the buyers and sellers want to be serviced.
There is a "slamming" and name calling in this post and it is done without regard or even the mention that there are many states that operate in a way that is not uniform throughout the United States; WHERE IT IS PERFECTLY LEGAL TO WORK WITH THE BUYER AND SELLER AS LONG AS YOU HAVE DISCLOSED IT AND GIVEN THE BUYER AN OPPORTUNITY TO CHOOSE A BUYERS BROKER!
I think that is just fine, don't you?---what do we want? A state by state function of the needs of each state or do we want a Federal mandate as to how we should all operate in our respective marketplaces??? (Sounds like socialism to me!)
IF A BUYER WANTS TO WORK WITH A LISTING AGENT FOR WHATEVER REASON---WHO CAN QUESTION THEIR MOTIVES???
In my opinion, Buyer Brokerage has become a "politically correct" encumbrance that makes the super-critical agent want to identify, call out and in general, make life miserable for the other agent who gets a call from a buyer on a listing they are representing. "The selfish, greedy agent should not take this buyer on (even with full disclosure and a rejected offer of a buyer broker) because all they want is both sides of the deal!!!"...and to the buyer who CHOOSES to work with the listing agent instead of being represented by a buyers brokerage, this same "Super-Critical" agent will say: "They think they are going to get a cut of the commission--or they only want to cut a better deal with that under-handed listing agent!"...Makes me question the motives of an agent who constantly looks at the other agent who is operating within the law while said agent has another set of laws that they must work within. If there is a real issue--call the state where the "Crime" is being committed!
"HOW DARE YOU CALL YOURSELF AN EXPERT!!!"
Then there is the other type of super-critical blogger who says: "Don't you dare call yourself an expert!!!" ....Why? because others may feel that they are NOT an expert IF said agent has taken the moniker?? Or, maybe because by being so sure of yourself, you are up to NO GOOD???
Does the agent who says this about themselves have a secret agenda that is to out-do all others??? Who cares??? Don't we all do that anyway??? Last time I checked leaders are usually "experts" by default--otherwise they would not be leaders!!
I personally could care less if an agent is out there doing the things that I mention above! There is nothing I can do even if they are doing it LEGALLY OR ILLEGALLY!...Wait a minute--last time I looked there were even worse things going on in this business!!! I know of a pedophile who ran an office here--made international news because he was from Germany and ran an office with a system for international peophilia!
So, I am going to get on with my work, do it as I see fit within the law, and I may even call myself an expert in an area or on an issue if I feel so inclined---and if I get criticized for doing so, so be it!
LET'S NOT TRY TO CONTROL OTHERS THROUGH CRITICISM--IT'S REALLY NOT VERY EFFECTIVE, NOW IS IT?
THE SUPER-CRITIC REALLY BUGS ME, CAN YOU TELL??? :)
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Paula I. Hathaway, Senior Broker Associate, Douglas Elliman Real Estate
Southamtpon Village Real Estate Specialist since 1995; Also Specializes in North Sea, Noyac, Water Mill and Bridgehampton, New York
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