PAULA'S SOUTHAMPTON BLOG: "FACEBOOK, TWITTER"...The "New" Monkey On Our Backs?...You Be The Judge!

"FACEBOOK, TWITTER"...The "New" Monkey On Our Backs?...You Be The Judge!

"FACEBOOK, TWITTER"...The "new" Monkey on our backs?...You be the judge!

This is a post inspired by Mario Jannatpour today when he wrote his post:  Are Facebook and Twitter killing America?  THE "INNOCENCE" OF SOCIAL MEDIA

My response to his post was:     "I think I see your post as an analogy of what is happening in this country--and I agree. Symbolically, the Twitter, Facebook crowd are looking at life entirely through the lens of "social" networking, not through the lens of hard work, including manual labor. The trend to be a part of the Internet realm without having to participate in the physical act of creating goods and products or even offering services that may mean income for the average American, has made us all a little less aware of the real hard work that it takes to stay afloat. We are losing out to the masses and cheap labor of the 3rd world. I don't look forward to the days when we wake up and realize that we don't have the means to survive a change in the world that could include OUR world as a 3rd world country."

Mario let me know that I was in sync with the message of his post and acknowledged it there as well....

Now I am thinking that the idea he put forth is such an important one--not to try to destroy the social media faves like Facebook and Twitter but to maybe "awaken" something in us that we all need to be aware of. We have seen the reach of both of the "big" ones and we have watched as the results of the message gets out and as the whole Middle East broils in it's own juices---and tumbles into the chaos of unrest as it tips country after country, THE TWISTED WORLD OF SOCIAL MEDIAtoppling the leaders of all, all at once!

What is the message? What are we missing? Is there something we can't quite see behind that curtain of "Innocence" that is portrayed in the names of these giants: Facebook (almost humorous) and Twitter(slightly childlike)! Do we really understand the force of these two behemoths in particular? Are we prepared for the future that is unfolding in the world with the impact of social media? What life-altering affects are about to unfold because of the influence of social networking? 

All these questions are just some of the things we need to ask ourselves--maybe we will avoid some of the unrest that came about in the 3rd world---maybe not. I am willing to bet that the unrest we are witnessing in Wisconsin at the moment is being perpetuated by the idea that the display of an angry mob will move mountains and can win a whole movement a victory, a victory that can not be denied!

And what of a whole decade of youthful participation in social media---are there habits being formed, lifestyles that can not be understood with the same way of thinking from our own lives? What of the bad habits??? Is there a parallel to the "monkey on your back" from the world of drug abuse? What do we make of the "new" thinking and the unfamiliar reasoning that is being brought into being--and coming very quickly into this world we live in? How will it impact us? Is it unimportant to consider IT, or is it life-altering in it's novelty?




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Paula I. Hathaway, Senior Broker Associate, Douglas Elliman Real Estate

Southamtpon Village Real Estate Specialist since 1995;  Also Specializes in North Sea, Noyac, Water Mill and Bridgehampton, New York

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Comment balloon 15 commentsPaula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA • February 19 2011 08:22AM


I get tickled by these discussions.  How many AR members remember that the America fought area codes, zip codes, the fax machine, the internet and the list goes on.  Yes all of those things have changed us, but I wouldn't say the world stopped spinning or has gone out of control.  It will change us, but I don't think it will be negative.

Posted by Navona Hart, Selling the Best Properties in CentralVirginia (Real Living Cornerstone) almost 8 years ago

My late Grandmother (born in 1907) did not get a Driver's License when she came of age.  What was the point?   She lived in Rural North Florida, the roads were dirt, and only a few people had automobiles.

But as the years rolled by, the dirt roads became paved highways.   The buildings that had been bunched together "Downtown", began to spread out along those highways, and now you needed a car to get from one store to another.

Grandma never did learn how to drive.   She depended on others, or took an expensive Taxi, to get where she needed to go.

Those who fail to embrace Social Media may find themselves in a similar position within a few years. 



Posted by Fred Griffin presently on Leave of Absence, Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker (Fred Griffin Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

The people who sell the most real estate in this area were doing it before social media came along. I don't follow anyone on Twitter and I don't use it myself as I can't see being interrupted all day long by it. Facebook is a platform whereby we can interact with a larger audience and it has more value I feel. The questions I'm asking myself these days is are we salepeople or journalists? Are clients seeking out an agent who has incarnated themselves into a news network? I'm not so sure.

Posted by Matt Grohe, Serving the metro since 2003 (RE/MAX Concepts) almost 8 years ago

The social media is just another tool that can be very useful but everything in moderation is a good rule.  Have a website (make it interesting and informative) and have a presence on Facebook (I don't yet but keep threatening to do it).  But don't rely just on that.  Make the personal contacts, volunteer in the community, do  good things and be a good person.  It's the total person that will make you a success, not just being on Facebook and Twitter.  They are just a couple of the pieces of the puzzle.

Posted by Doug Bullwinkel, Mortgage Loan Originator NMLS #281609 (Envoy Mortgage, NMLS 6666) almost 8 years ago

It will be really nice to come back and reread this post 5-10 yrs from now.  It's amazing already how much SM has transforming things and I think it's going to continue to accelerate.  most of the changes will be good as info is shared more and people understand it better.

Posted by Debbie Gartner, The Flooring Girl & Blog Stylist -Dynamo Marketers (The Flooring Girl) almost 8 years ago

Morning Paula.  Some rather deep thinking going on here!  Mario's post certainly did spawn an impressive response - the depth of which seems to indicate many of us do harbor concerns about the social impact of the web and the resulting global village.

What I fear most is that the pure "utility" of the web, and such social media as Facebook and Twitter, as technical means to the end of business, educational and social success will morph into an all-encompassing life-style in which we lose touch with true personal interaction.  A generation of children is glued to their cell phones and iPads etc nearly to the exclusion of the need or desire to "actually touch and be with others".  No matter how you slice it, this can't be good.

In simplistic terms a Tweet is merely a 21st century version of the hand-written note or card or letter - on a vastly more immediate basis.  But a letter was usually born of necessity driven by distance and isolation.  A Tweet is often born, consciously or not, of a choice to not call, not write or not visit in person.  It is just "easier", less hassle, less time-consuming.

When we evolve from using technological alternatives as a supplement, to depending upon them for nearly the entirety of our communication we will have lost something very dear to our very humaness.

Posted by Vance Booher (Re/Max Select, SRES) almost 8 years ago

Navona: I hope you are right---I don't like to think that the things happening in the middle East will happen here---probably not!...however, don't forget that the turmoil was brough on by Facebook's ability to get the word out---that is all those people did for weeks and they got the government to topple! I don't think you can compare the zip code and fax machines can be compared to the impact of social media!

Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

Fred: I don't think you need to worry about people NOT embracing social media---they are doing just that. My concern is that we do not yet know the possible impact it will have upon those who are coming up into society and who have to run countries and do the bigger things in life than just sitting on their duffs working FB and Twitter! I am a postive person so I do want to keep a possitive outlook for our future; however, we NEED to be aware and keep observing the impact on our youth, especially.

Matt: Good questions! I am not afraid to ask them, and I see you are not either---we need to be aware....research needs to be done to find the possible future impact on people and the things they do with social networking....not to control it but to simply understand it's impact on society. It's all well and good that socail media is responsible for over-throwing the repressive gov't in Egypt---but now we watch as the same crowds keep returning to the square--have they solved their problems or have they just "opened a can of worms" so to speak? What will be the eventual outcome---will it continue to be an idea which came into being without being thought out enough to be an effective revolt or revolution??? It's all about OUTCOME and how little we know about that!

Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

Doug: Those are practical ideas and I agree with them completely....

Debbie: I hope you are right---I have faith that the right things will happen but I still think we have been warned of the other possibilites and we need to be on alert...... Nothing  wrong with being prepared! I just think that as the revolution(s) unfold in other parts of the world, we need to be on alert to the possiblities here--not necessarily revolution but look at Wisconsin right now. That could get rough in the next few days!


Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

Vance: Now, that's what I am talking about---very well said! Your response covers the idea completely of the worry I have about the unbridled use of social media by those who use it---most of whom are the youth of this country. Nothing wrong with our youth, however, they do not yet have fully formed minds, are not necessairily capable of results-oriented thinking and also not ready for well thought-out decisions! Maybe I am wrong, but the big decisions being made in Egypt and other countries right now are based upon long decades of suffering---just ending that suffering is a goal in and of itself. What happens to some cockeyed idea that comes along in a country that is not a repressive one? The power of social media is now known and we NEED to fully understand the possibilities of that power on our society!

Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

It's just our society changing as a whole.  We need to keep up with the changes or we will be left behind.  I do think you have very valid points, and I also think we need to help monitor our children.  Make sure they are still going out and playing outside and being involved in activities other than social media.

Posted by Cindy Edwards, CRS, GRI, PMN - Northeast Tennessee - 423-677-6677 (RE/MAX Checkmate) almost 8 years ago

There are some things I just will not "keep up with". I can't get enough viewers to my web site let alone to the other sites as well. things are really slow and I am not the computer whiz to keep it going.

Good luck,


Posted by Clint Mckie, Desert Sun Home, Comm. Inspection 1-575-706-5586 (Desert Sun Home, commercial Inspections) almost 8 years ago

Cindy: I think you are right about the monitoring--I do not have children but I have seen in my family how children under the age of 16 are really affected by the use of social media---in the grocery store for instance, I see the really young people who work there, constantly texting and looking at their cell phones---all the time! They barely have a second to interact with customers!!! What are we going to see from these young people in the future if they can't pull themselves away for 1 second to interact socially???

Clint: You are very smart to "not keep up". I think you should be thankful for the lack of interaction and go for the known ways to connect iwth your customers. In the end, I believe wwe will see a return to the traditional ways to get business--nothing wrong with a nice phone call or even a bit of news in an email!!!

Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago

It's amazing how facebook and twitter has changed our social structure, I can only imagine how it will affect the future generations.

Posted by Brian Doubleday, Ladera Ranch, Foothill Ranch, Lake Forest, Mission Viejo (Brian Doubleday - IML RealEstate - Orange County, CA Broker) almost 8 years ago

Brian: Let's hope its effects will be harmless--I don't know if that is possible but I have to think that way otherwise I won't sleep at night!

Posted by Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA, ...The Most Informed Agent In The Hamptons! (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 8 years ago